I like this quote from the Oct. VT message:

"Never forget that these little ones are the sons and daughters of God and that yours is a custodial relationship to them, that He was a parent before you were parents and that He has not relinquished His parental rights or interest in these His little ones. . . . Rear your children in love, in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Take care of your little ones. Welcome them into your homes, and nurture and love them with all of your hearts. They may do, in the years that come, some things you would not want them to do, but be patient, be patient. You have not failed as long as you have tried"   Gordon B. Hinkley 

There are two messages in that quote for me - one, it reminds me of our little children's divinity and that we are stewards. I want to be more careful and respectful of them. The other is that because Heavenly Father is the #1 parent we do our best and then put them into His hands. Ultimately their salvation is between Him and them. We are a facilitator and of course are accountable for teaching them but they have their agency (boy, don't we know!) and in the end they report back to Him.

I believe the work of salvation is so much more extensive than we realize .  There is always hope. Heavenly Father loves all his children and is working with them.